Posted by Annette on May 30, 2013
I’ll let other writers elucidate the finer points of the searing-hot mating rituals of the single digital nomad. I’m more interested in the searing-hot mating rituals of committed lovers, scorching destination after destination with their head-turning chemistry.
Make sure that sex has a sacred space in your location independent life, in both a physical and spiritual sense. Don’t meander from dorm hostel to dorm hostel, assuming you’ll find an hour when your ten roommates are all magically absent. Trust me, it’s not gonna happen.
Spiritual space is slightly trickier. The hyperactive novelty of an LIP life tends to be overwhelming, first of all. Add to that the pressures of 24/7 togetherness, the constant introduction of new people to your social sphere and the vagaries of a shifting schedule. Prioritize intimacy and connection so it isn’t overwhelmed by the other dynamics.
Virgin coconut oil--the cold-pressed stuff--is relatively easy to find in health food stores almost anywhere in the world. (When it's available, I buy the Nutiva brand to support their super-high business standards.) It’s better—and far, far healthier—than any drugstore lubricant on offer. It’s also a fab massage oil, cleanser (especially when mixed with baking soda), moisturizer, makeup remover, cooking oil and spread for your morning toast. Can you say that about your ol’ tube of Astroglide?* Thought not.
[POSTSCRIPT EDIT] A Facebook friend brought my attention to a vitally important note that bears mention here: Polyurethane condoms are the only types of condoms safe to use with oil. (Trojan Supra and Avanti are the best in the category.) I'm latex-sensitive and I don't like polyisoprene, so I had completely forgotten to mention this in the first round. Sorry!
Make room in your bag for at least one really good one. You’ll be glad you did.
Then, keep your stash in a small, washable cloth bag. You’ll most likely be sharing space at some point or another, and it’s nice to keep it all together, close at hand and hidden in plain sight.
Physically, I mean. If you let it, the LIP lifestyle can keep you superglued to a laptop. Nothing’s as effective a libido assassin as a sedentary lifestyle, so go out and play. (Setting off on a playground tour of your new neighborhood will do nicely.)
Remember: out here, sexual safety is worth both your lives. This is true even if you don’t happen to be in sub-Saharan Africa or midtown Bangkok--and it's true whether you intend to be monogamous or not.
A permanent or semi-permanent method of birth control is a much better idea than the messy, annoying, temporary alternatives. This doesn't get you out of condom use for safety in nano-relationships, naturellement. That said: The peace-of-mind in knowing that it's pretty close to statistically impossible to get pregnant is worth its weight in gold.
Think about it:
I switched to an IUD several years ago and couldn't be happier with the decision.
Choose to set out on it every day. Make it an art project in constant motion. And never stop exploring.